This is a very good and important question. The relationship between client and therapist is one of the most vital aspects upon which success depends. Many psychotherapists consider themselves a good counsellor for everyone and anyone and I admire and respect that, but I feel differently. Trust is essential and so is being able to relate to each other. When I have been a client in previous years, I found plenty of therapists with outstanding credentials but it was rare to find a therapist who understood exactly what it is like to experience debilitating fear, sadness, anxiety, stress and/or depression and come out the other side. Their insights were purely academic and not experiential: it felt to me as though they hadn’t really practised what they preach.
I enjoy striving to help others and leave plenty of space between clients to contemplate each one. For my own clarity I need to devote some time to think about their personal struggle and needs after our session is over as well as before future sessions begin. This is demonstrated by the follow-up emails I often send to my clients to help them (and me) be clear on what we have discussed and is good for them to bear in mind. This is not typically offered in counselling therapy. You will also have access to meditations and mindfulness exercises on my Youtube channel. I am also open to creating personalized mindfulness recordings for individual clients that are more specific to their needs and temperament.
In order for you to decide if I am the right therapist for you, I recommend you check out my approach to CBT and my background. We won’t know for sure if we’re a good match until we’ve had a few sessions together or you might even find after a single session that I’m not your cup of tea; this is perfectly fine.
While I welcome anybody from all walks of life, there are types of people who will benefit most from my approach to psychotherapy. While much of my technique is firmly grounded in practical, proven forms of CBT and mindfulness, as we progress there can be a dimension to it that requires a level of open-mindedness. Often, our conversations and the mindfulness techniques you learn will be enough for you to dramatically alter your experience of life into something much happier and more equanimous and no more will be needed or desired. Other times you may find you are connecting with a deeper aspect of your nature that you may have previously been unaware of or not had much practice in. So, this may be another direction you decide you would like to explore once you feel more stabilized in your daily life and I would be happy to accompany you in this exploration.
Mindfulness is taught and practised in a multitude of different ways. My approach as your counsellor focuses mainly on two aspects. The first concerns thought; becoming aware of thought patterns, the nature of thought, our relationship to thoughts and identifying resistance. The second is becoming aware of bodily sensations. Both these are interrelated and can be very powerful in breaking painful and uncomfortable thought cycles that can leave us feeling exhausted, tortured and in despair. Anyone can do mindfulness. Sometimes people convince themselves they can’t or have tried it and determined that they cannot quieten the incessant bombardment of thoughts. My approach does not encourage you to even try and banish thoughts. Their presence is natural and expected but, as you begin to learn more about your relationship to them, you will find they will settle down on their own.